A lot of what Fang said can be summed up in that hokey but true saying, "If you love something, let it go, if it comes back, it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was yours." Sounds like your guy is just as confused as you are, and just maybe putting some space between the two of you will answer all your questions; I know it's hard to let go of a good thing, but good luck whatever you decide!

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