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Originally posted by Michael Smith
Great point, BigBear!

So you feel that most men seem to think and feel that they are expected to already know everything there is to know about sex?

I agree! And if we admit we don’t know everything, then we may start to feel inadequate.

I also think some of us believe that if we admit we need help, we may also be admitting that we are stupid and can’t figure it out for ourselves, we aren’t doing it right, or we aren’t pleasing our ladies.

I also believe many people (especially men) are so terrified of failing in bed that they are afraid to take any risks or do anything to make themselves vulnerable, which is a failure in itself. If we stick with what we are already comfortable with (even if it isn’t the best we are capable of), then we don’t have to wade into new territory and risk failure.

Any others?

Certainly, the failure to know everything can really sting, for some stupid reason. Having difficulty grasping concepts that most of my peers would consider too arcane to even contemplate can make me feel that way. In terms of macho-competitiveness, in whatever arena, it doesn't matter in what company you are competing, "losing" by any definition feels just as bad.