Well thanks people, I have to say that Jenny is a very good mother and loves her kids. She was not a good wife for me and in the long run, I was not a good husband for her.

We married too soon and did not know each other well enough. There was also some heavy interference from her family, particularly her sister and also her very opiniated mother that made things hard.

Jenny is a decent person and we both would never use our children as weapons, we have seen another family ruin their children by doing so. We are both going to go with the children to a netball carnival in a fortnight and to the state athletic titles in Hobart in several months and share accommodation.

We just cannot stay in the same house as it compounds the problems and does not allow either of us to move on with our lives. Custody is not an issue, we will have shared custody with the children being welcome at either place. For the time being they will be with their mum who is better equipped to look after their needs than a father in full time employment.