(((HUGS))) Grumble............

Cobalt and I are a blended family with four children (all of them live with us). We both had decided that we would take the crap that we took for the sake of the kids, but in the end, decided that by doing that, it was making it worse on them and ourselves. It is a big decision that you have come to, and one, I am sure that you will not regret.

There will be more situations that you will encounter... especially regarding the kid(s), and those won't be pleasant. The only item of wisdom (I think), that I can offer is this -- remind yourself constantly that what you do, say, feel, will be picked up by the children, and look out for their best interests ALL the time. (which I know that you will), even though she may not (and use the kids as a tool to hurt you)

And, like Irish stated, it might be a good idea, if you are able, to make sure that your new place is big enough for the kids as well. Not only will you have visitation (if they stay with their mom), but you might find yourself as a full time single father when they decide to move with you.

Good luck to you GG.....

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