Sorry to make matters more complex...just used to having to defend my relationships outside of their sexual content...not just in the "straight" community, but also in the "gay" community.

I suppose what I've so in-eloquently stated is that my sexual orientation can not be defined by how I get laid, but rather by who I choose to share the intimacy of personal relationships with.

I agree that we need guidlines to express our desires, interests and sources of pleasure, but I'd hate to think that I'd been bumped from a group I (more or less) identify with because of the How's and Why's of my sexual behaviour.

Ok...I'm off my soap box....

huh huh...did I say box?

In my honest opinion, I think "bi-sexuality" is just a normal expression of sexuality. It's the desire to share pleasure with whomever presents themselves , whether in fantasy form...or real life partners.

Sinking in the mud further....

Ophelia