I am speaking from my own views, and what would work for me and it doesn't necessarily reflect an opinion that I feel others should follow..... and, each person's reasons as to what they choose to do is their own, and I do not condemn them for that, even if it isn't something that I would do. Now that is out of the way.......

I have learned that I don't like being "used", and I would feel used in the relationship that you have described. I have learned to never doubt my hunches.. and if I had the doubts in my mind that you have expressed, I would end it with him...... It sounds to me that he avoids talking about this woman with you, and that would send up a red flag to me.

According to your profile, you are young yet, and have a lot of life ahead of you. You don't deserve a man like this who would take advantage of you and this other woman in which he has a relationship, however you qualify it as such.

As far as your question - are you wrong to love him? I cannot answer that, each person's definition of love is different. The only concern that I would have for you is this... can you AFFORD to love him? Emotionally, physically, spiritualy? Can you afford to loose yourself with a man that cannot break it off with a woman and be totally free to love you back with all that he has? That is what I would be asking myself.......

Sorry if I sound harsh, but you did ask for opinions......

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