Why do all the specifics matter? The big picture is what I'm having trouble with. Which is YOU are trying to rationalize why YOUR WIFE is lying about the DETAILS!!! The details don't matter. The fact that she is married and "laying up" in a motel with someone else is enough. To add insult to injury, she had sex with him and she's insulting your intelligence by telling you she didn't and that she didn't feel anything. A quadraplegic would have felt someone trying to force themselves into their bodies. Then she has the NERVE to bring her "used" body and lay it in YOUR bed and tell you "Don't touch it, I'm sore." Then you talk about her being with him several hours and drinking with him.

It seems you are looking for ways to justify or excuse what she did. You need to think about the consequences of her actions. Suppose this man had a sexually transmitted disease and that is why she was sore. You need to stop discussing this with her and take action. Kick her lying ass to the curb. The fact that she's STILL lying after you know the worst part shows she has no remorse. And since she sees that she can get away with that kinda thing this probably won't end with this man.

If she has all this FREE TIME on her hands why doesn't she get a job and do something productive. One last question ok two:
#1 Where are you when she's out "doing the do?"
#2 wher did you THINK she was as the hours rolled by?

Seems to me you can't see the forest for the trees.....

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