Welcome to Pixies --- there's a lot of great people and a lot of great advice, but one thing we don't have around here is a silly question, if it's asked in earnest. Glad you got up the guts up to share your question with us all!

As for an answer... I think the most important thing to do is just trust your instinct. When you first try to go on top, there may be an awkward moment or two as you try to line things up (I know there was for me & my guy ) but you'll soon get that sorted out. After that, just experiment! Try moving in different directions, and holding your upper body at different angles (leaning forward so you can kiss him or sitting straight up on him as if you were riding horseback) as you move. Pay close attention to what feels good to you, and to what feels good to him, and then try variations on that theme!

I was terrified to try that position at first (it was only the second time I'd ever had sex, so you can imagine how nervous I was!) but I find it surprisingly natural. If you're too worried that it's not going to be good, then it probably won't be --- but if you just let go and approach it as a very sexy way to play (rather than being on a mission to get one or both of you straight to orgasm in as few strokes as possible) then you'll find it's wonderful! For both you *and* him, that is.

He's going to love the sight of you doing your thing... Believe me! Place his hands on your hips or your waist and let him guide your motions a little, if that makes you feel more comfortable. Or else let him play with your breasts as you move... You, on the other hand, will have the absolute joy of being able to control what's going on --- you control the angle, the speed, the depth, and the timing! If he's ready to cum and you're not (you said your experiences so far have been unfortunately short?), then lift off him and just tease him a bit by running his head along your slit, not letting him enter, or else just shift your position somewhat. That way, *you* decide what happens, and you can exercise a fair amount of control over when, too!

I don't know any way to practise this in advance --- the particular height and width of his body between your knees and the angle of his cock are something you have to learn by experience. Besides, even if you could rig something with your toys to simulate all of that, you still wouldn't be getting the feedback from them about what feels best, and feedback is the key to learning!

One last thought: good luck!!!

--- sweetstuff