I love it, Anne!

I too had a lover who said he was gay but turned out he was bi. I also wish my husband could have the same viewpoint as you about having a (primarily) gay SO being attracted to their same sex. The wonderful man I married simply cannot understand and freaks out when I do or say anything indicating I find a particular woman or type of woman sexually attractive. It's not just embarassment over her being there; he acts the same way if we're alone together watching a movie or TV and I like some actress.

Beth