ok Kitty and Osuche:
THIS IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU!
You are both worth far more than this. Don't LET your guy sit in front of the PC/TV?whatever and vegetate. Think of it this way: while you are being easygoing and letting your guy behave like this, you are sending out the message that you don't think you're worthy of more attention than his computer, so why in the hell should HE think you are? Next time he's on the PC (looking at porn, is probably the best time) strip naked and stand between his eyes and the screen. DEMAND that he pays you attention (he'll probably like the fact that you're taking control of the situation) Say to him: 'Why just look at it, when you have it right here in front of you and you can touch it taste it smell it etc...?'
My advice is: if he's not paying attention to you, you need to make it impossible for him not to pay attention to you. If he doesn't respond to this move, then now's the time for you to begin a conversation with him about it. If he refuses to talk about it, you need to tell him how unhappy it's making you and that if he loves you the way he says he does, then surely the health and happiness of your relationship is more important than games/ porn.
I imagine what may come out of these discussions may indicate some problems that your man is having. Sounds to me, like he may be depressed (and may be suffering some self esteem issues which are causing problems in your sex life) and it sounds like he's certainly not getting enough sleep. Men find it hard to face up to their own problems and often woul rather hide from them by escaping into activities that make them feel safe (computer games and masturbation, I can almost guarantee, would have formed part of his 'safe haven' during those tumultuous adolescent years, and we often go back to things which used to provide comfort in times of distress).
And ladies, if he refuses to talk, refuses to fuck, refuses to spend more time with you, then you MUST realise that you're better than that, and that it might be time to think about moving on. A guy who is unwilling to try to make a relationship better is not someone you want to spend your life with/ have kids with/ whatever, is it?
(((((Hugs)))))) to both of you.........PM me if you want to talk.
