I really wish I had some insightful answer to give you both but I don't..... big help huh?!? I just knew I wanted kids, acutally with my SO & I it was him who wasn't all that sure about having them.

I do know 2 families where the wife works full time at her career. In one family the husband says home with the kids full time. In the 2nd, a same sex marriage, one is full time employed, the other works part time just to keep her foot in the door so she can go back when thier 2 kids are in school.

Maybe talk with your SO & see if he'd be willing/able to stay with the children either full or part time while you continue working. I think your children would benifit from having a happy, fullfilled Mom & not one that felt forced to stay home. Who knows once you've got them you may decide to stay home after all.

What ever you decide, good luck to you both in your careers, your relationships and with your future families. It is a big decision and its good your putting so much thought into it and talking it out with your SO. Just shows to me what thoughtful, caring, informed parents you'll make.

teddy