The saying goes......."Where there's smoke.....there's fire".

But I also have another interesting observation......and I promise xmanb11, I am in no way accusing you of anything......it's just an observation!

You've said you travel quite extensively.......only home on weekends.....and that, until recently, you haven't noticed anything peculiar in 17 years. You don't have to answer this question in open forum........but answer it in your own head........

Have you been having an afffair or affairs over the years (while traveling) and are you now NOT doing so? Are you now looking for reason to blame your S/O for feelings of guilt in yourself? Have you been so self absorbed in your own "affairs" that, till now, you haven't noticed that people change through the years......(we are ever evolving)? I ask this because sometimes the human nature is to cast blame on the innocent to make us feel better for our own short comings! Oh......and......you've never told us your age........it's a rather significant thing in the scheme of things!

If this is not the case......then I can only surmise that if you feel a change in her demeanor and she seems "like a new woman"....and has no interest or desire in you anymore.......but has other places to go and other people to see, regardless of that fact that you are FINALLY home for the weekend.............then she might be sick and tired of sitting home alone and has found "new friends" or.......she may just want you to think so......to get your attention away from work and onto her! OR......she's having an affair...........I can't tell yet!

Please pardon my candid response........but you asked....and I don't lie!

BTW.......in order to acsess her cell phone message password...........you have to know some words/numbers that she might use as a password! How well do you know her now-a-days? And........if you want to know who she's calling (from the list on the bill).......call them or ask her who's number it is on the bill!

Oh geezzzzzz...........ok......that seems harsh.......but you've hardly contributed to this thread......and yet you want answers to help you discover if your "wife" is cheating.......when we don't really know her (side of the story) or if she is! I do hope she isn't........and that she's got your attention enough now to make you realize your love for her! If she is........I know how heavy your heart is and I send my best wishes to you!

*submitted with care.......regardless of how harsh it seems*

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