I'm with Fussy. Years ago, I'd gather with friends with the sole intention of getting fucked up but needless to say, would end up regretting it for a variety of reasons.

But with kids, ya can't do that kind of stuff. So, with the wife in agreement, after a drink we'll take it from there.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.