Thank you for all of the replies.
To answer a couple of the posts here. She told me that "he tried for a long time and twice to f*** her and never could". And that he never did enter her. I asked how long and she said 3 hours. I said that is absurd, and she said a long time, I didnt look at the clock. I asked what they or he did in between the first time and the second and she says they did nothing. No touching, talking or foreplay. I asked her why he didnt stop when you told him it hurt....I assumed this would cause pain. She told me that she didnt feel any pain at all or pleasure. Just like someone pushing on her.
I doubt that she was feeling so guilty that she couldnt get aroused. Alcohol does away with that and she had been with him for about 20 months now.
Another question, does a woman really have to be aroused much if at all to have intercourse ? Or can she go through the motions.
Sure I am 99% sure she is lying, there is that 1% I could be wrong. That is why I am here, to learn.
What I really cant understand at all is this, I assume, if a woman is this dry then as soon as any man tried to enter her she would feel pain almost immediatly. Right or wrong ?
She would feel pain and tell him not now or to do something else etc.
The other thing I cant understand is, I cant imagine any man continually trying to enter a woman who is obviously this dry to where he cannot enter her at all, and to try this long and this hard and twice.
She was 32 and he 42 at this time. She did admit to having intercourse with him 5 times (she included this one), this would have been the 4th out of 5.
The degree of soreness is what really bothers me. In all the years with her, and observing her (looking back) while having this affair she was never ever this sore, not even close.
I do not know why she would be afraid to tell me the truth now. The only thing that could happen is me divorcing her. And that is certain if she continues to lie, though again could this be the truth. She could be very embarrassed to tell me and I do have some reason to believe that this was with someone entirely different than she has told me.
Thanks everyone for reading this
Craig