Osuche, I can definitely empathize w/you. It can take me during masturbation anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour; I probably average 15 or 20 minutes. It CAN be damned frustrating, especially when you read about women who can come in literally 2 or 3 minutes. Sometimes not having allowed myself to have an orgasm for a few days will make me more sensitive and allow me to come a little faster, but it still takes quite a while; it just may be a stronger orgasm when it finally does come. I always worry about my partners getting bored or sore or tired, and it's true that that doesn't help matters either.

I feel like I've got this fuse that takes forever to light, but once it's lit, it'll keep going like the EverReady Bunny. Unfortunately, by then my partners are usually too worn out to keep it going and going and going....

I've also found that it takes me longer now than it did when I was a teenager; I have more types of orgasms, and they are just as strong or stronger, but they are in no way instantaneous like they were back then.

BTW, I know of no way to speed them up; if you find a solution, I'd love to hear it.

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