Oh Jenna, it's rotten that a lack of maturity on his part can result in a lack of confidence on yours. Still, I do know how it goes. It's hard to be all grown up and self confident aboutt it while you're stuck in the middle of "but WHY doesn't he want to"s. After all, BigBear's absolutely right...he's the one who's missing out.

How do I deal with rejection? Well, if you've got dinner already bought or made I'd call up my most fun girlfriend (the one who's always available in a crisis) and have her over to eat it ...as well as drinking copious amounts of well fermented grape juice. If the guy just turned up without calling and expected me to have been waiting on his appearance....well I'd have a choice between letting him share (and incidently get shredded by the friend in question) or sending a serious message about consideration. While letter her cheer me up, I'd make sure I frequently repeated the phrase "It's a lucky break really, if he treats people like this I'd hate to have learned it after sleeping with him/falling for him" frequently. Until it finally started to sink into my head or I started slurring my words.

Cause it's really really true. A guy worth having wouldn't pull this stunt.

Sorry you're having an emotionally destabilizing afternoon. Have faith, there are good guys out there. And now you're not stuck at dinner with one that isn't.