You could ask Lil to move this thread if you think......but it's fine here exib_it_all......and I get your gist much better now!

I dunno if one could combat an initial reaction such as you describe......but in time, if she decided to stay with you....she'd see that you are no pervert. You never get a second chance to make a first impression, so I'd say that you might want to make your choice of partner's someone who you thought would be most open to different sexual situations. An open minded person isn't hard to distinguish between a close minded type. Someone secure in their own sexuality will be more secure and open to your sexuality. You can lead a horse to water....but you can't MAKE him drink. If she sticks around regardless of her initial first reaction.....she might be open enough to want to know more about the turn-ons you describe.

Dunno exactly what it is that you say to bring up this topic.....but maybe it's the way you describe it and not IT itself that makes her react this way. I mean......in your story about how you discovered that you like this attention.....you said it was an accidental incident. One doesn't have too many "accidental" incidents like that in a lifetime..........so how do you now get that same thrill and what is it that you say to explain how you get that thrill? Sometimes.....it's not what you say but how you say it that can make or break an explaination.

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