I am not going to arugue with your statment IKG, because I often think that way myself. When I am down, or upset about something, I try to think of people who are going thru far worse circumstances than I - and that usually gets me through my tough times.

But on the other hand, each person's experiences/feelings/behaviors are their own, and I don't take away my attitudes and feelings and put them in my back pocket because I know of someone who has it worse off then I do. I will allow myself to dwell in my feelings of the moment, and tell myself that it is just awful, then I manage to convince myself that things will get better, and they usually do.

For example: Within the last year, I have had a hysterectomy (found cancer) lump in my breast (cyst - but was scary anyway) lost my job when I was in the hospital for my hyster, came home, recovered, found another job, was on that job for 6 months and had a small stroke, was released from the hospital - pretty much back to normal. During this time, we almost lost the house twice, ex-spouses tried to take kids away, lost a vehicle, became estranged with my mother (due to my wonderful sister). So, this last year really sucked the big one.

Through all of this, it was in the back of my mind that things will get better and there are people out there that are worse off than I am at the moment. I allowed myself to drown in self-pity, but survived it all.

And when asked how I am, I say pretty excellent! The reason that I do, is that I am alive and loved and have someone to love.

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