In answer to Jojo

Yes quite a lot actually. Marriage counselling twice and when we got referred to a sex therapist she refused to go. I tried everything I could think of really over a lot of years.

People who know me already know that I don't give up easily.

No she is not happy, either am I. This situation is unbearable for me and I am moving on. We all deserve some happiness and I want some for me for once.