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Originally posted by lockbox
Oh Eliza. Let me start by telling you that if the only sex I ever get for the rest of my life is anal, I will die a blissfull woman.
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Only six posts and already I like her!
Lock's right on the money, Eliza. Communication is so crucial! It's part of the three golden rules of anal sex - CLR. Communication, Lube and Relaxation.
No, even more lube than that.
A little more.
Even more.
Got it.
I can't offer any advise on how to open your man up to the idea, but I wish you lots of luck!
I suggest start very slowly - just experiment with him playing lightly with your anus - not even penetrating, just one slippery finger gliding all around your hole. And occasionally pushing against it, pushing in, pushing down, pushing around..... makes great foreplay, even if that's the most anal-orientated you get for a few weeks.
I doubt your man would be interested in rimming (playing with your anus with his tongue) so you can skip that. Although if you can convince him to try it, by god, do so!
Then once you're both comfortable with that, he can try just slipping the start of his finger in - just as far as the first knuckle or so. Get used to having something there. Then he can slowly move his finger in and out - still only up to the first knuckle!
As time goes by, you can extend that - insert his whole finger inside you, let him finger fuck your ass with his whole finger etc. Try two fingers, starting out the same way. Typically, once you can comfortably handle two fingers in your ass, you should be ready for full blown anal sex.
Once again, start slow - and make sure he damn well listens! And as soon as you feel any discomfit, tell him to stop! First time anal sex is not to be rushed! Again, you can stop any time you want, you don't have to take an aggressive ass pounding your first time! Even if all you do is get the very tip of his cock into you, and then you have to call it quits, that's fine! It's a start!
The only other suggestion I have is this: if your man sees a big glob of fecal matter on his finger, or his dick, sounds like he's gonna freak and you'll never have anything near there again! So make sure you've been to the toilet before you start any anal play!
Sure hope this helps! Keep us updated!
CasperTG