Cheyanne, I agree with you to an extent, but I definitely agree with skipthisone. I am extremely turned on by the notion of belonging to my lover. However, I have to have a loving dom in the sense that I can't bear for my interaction with that person to involve any hint of humiliation or anger or disrespect. It IS a big concern for me, even in role play, because of experiences I've been through in the past (rape, which I know I've mentioned elsewhere). I want to please; I want to meet my lover's every desire to the best of my ability, whether it is to pleasure my lover's body or allow my lover to use mine to satisfy his desires. Meeting his sexual needs will always come before mine or in lieu of mine. I'll turn myself inside out for him, but if he calls me what I consider derogatory names or acts hateful or angry, I'll be ready to knee him or worse and run the hell in the opposite direction. My reaction will be to want to rebel with every ounce of strength in me. Not to mention that any desire on my part will have completely evaporated.

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