CptMorgan...

Stress is the number 1 factor in a man's decrease in sexual drive. It is also a killer.. literately. My only advice to you is to find a way to deal with the stress... I know.. easier said than done... but you must.. not only your relationship pays the price if you don't.

First, I suggest (now that summer is around the corner), you & the wife find a way to spend quality time together outdoors.. fresh air.. and togetherness (without sexual pressure) might do you loads of good.

Second, Spend some romantic time with your wife... without stressing over whether or not sex will be the ultimate outcome... I am a big believer that there is more important things in a marriage than sex... and when all of those things are okay.. then the sex follows.

I wish you best of luck... and hugs to both of you..