We have been looking into this as well. My problem has been the single males out there, no matter how much we say no that we are in this as a couple and are only looking for other couples at the moment, they still keep sending us messages. We have attented several swinging parties and love them, they are so much fun. We are planning on attending the caonoing/camping trip in May as well. So, far we are soft swing only because we want to make sure that this is really for us. And when people are pushy we let them know. I don't know if this helps but this has been my experiance with the lifestyle.