It's the dealbreaker with me, too. I once had a Mama's boy of a boyfriend who talked about how gross menstruation is and how a girlfriend of his had (gasp!) some hair on their nipples! I realized he didn't have respect for women. I'm not saying you're the same way, I'm just relating how it became the deal breaker for me.

My guy isn't comfortable with going down on me during this time of the month but if I really wanted it, I'm sure we could talk about it and I might manage to convince him. He will have sex during my period . . . just no oral. I'm fine with that.