Don't have it a one sided chat. If you can talk during sex it helps. Tell him what you want to do to him or what you want done to you. If you can't say the words,use the tamer version until you feel comfortable in the explicit version. And be yourself. It might also help to be in the mood and touching yourself to help you relax.

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