Eye contact, in or out of bed, is one of the most powerful forms of communications.

I first learned this with a girl who must have been 17 when I was 14. She was a cute farmgirl that I was too shy to talk to. Finally when we had to, she stopped in the middle of our talk, looked strangely into my eyes, and took a moment to regain her composure. A few minutes later after we left the little building we had been in, she said "come here", yanked me around the side, and gave me a big kiss, and said " I never knew you had such beautiful eyes". Nothing more happened, but to this day I save my deep eye contact for special circumstances.

Sometimes in bed, I ask her to look in my eyes, just as we are about to finish. If we can keep our eyes together, the experience is magnified many times.

The trouble is, in bed, usually her eyes are rolling back in their sockets