I'd say the daughter gets a gift (or at least a card with some cash) no matter what. As for the wine ... it would depend on how much notice you'd been given. If you are that close to the family and the call was a "come over now" invite, then you could forgo the gift. I doubt they truly expected you to bring something. Of course, being me ... I'd have gotten the wine anyway. Protocol is for strangers and acquaintances ... friends deserve better.

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