Dadaist,

If you know anything about me at all, you'll understand when I say I HAVE to reply to you today!

Pixies, to me, is alot like real life in that in any given situation where you have a large group of people...there will always be those who are more outgoing and those who sit back and listen and enjoy whats going on around them. At times the folks that usually blend into the background (for lack of a better analogy) will chime in on a subject that is of a certain interest to them. Some may feel content in this role and prefer to pass through unoticed. And some, like you (I think), want to add to or take more from a particular situation. This is actually easier than one might think. Just the mere fact that you took the time to explain your feelings here on this thread has opened a whole new door as to who you are and what you are thinking. One or two posts ago, I really didn't even know you at all. Yes, I have seen your nic from time to time. And as you stated, they have been few and far between. That is the one thing I did know about you and that was ok. I never really pondered the fact that you felt you were having a hard time with "joining the family". I always just assume (not necessarily a good thing on my part) that if a person comes to a site like Pixies that eventually they will make a place that is satisfying to them.

Pantyfanatic has posed a truly brilliant scenario! (Don't let that go to your head PF....either one of them!) Chat is like a club (tavern) and a person can talk with one or two people as the rest of the chatters banter with others. Or, if someone calls attention to a particular situation, everyone can add a comment or two and then it's usually back to the couple (two, three) people who were originally chatting to one another. Posting on the boards.....whether it be in pictures or stories or general chat etc....is entirely up to the individual and this situation opens up a whole new realm to the poster. If one wants attention then he/she can make a statement or post a pic and then playfully answer each and every reply individually or in one fell swoop and continue with the thread for as long or short a time as they would like. You started the thread and it is yours and you can do with it what you want.

Almost everyone here who generally adds replies to threads are genuine people with caring hearts and witty personalities and, might I add, very intelligent (despite what you'd might think from a bunch of pervs). There is no "click" that shuns newcomers or chooses who is cool and who isn't. Judgement is never passed by anyone here but the moderators (except in an extremely few rare cases) as to who is welcome and who isn't. The moderators have a particularly hard job in deciding who is trouble and should they be banned. Other than that, all are welcome to roam freely and join in or "lurk" to their hearts content! You, the poster, are in control of how you conduct yourself and who you associate with and whether or not you want attention. You can reply with long drawn out posts (like I do....LOL!) or just add your two cents and be done with it or come back again and again until you are satisfied! YOU are in control of how you are perceived in any situation where there are alot of people in one place (in this instance, Pixies).

So, as I said earlier, with this one thread......you have opened doors Dadaist! You can choose to come in and blab to your hearts content (of which I am hoping you do choose to do) or you can close this door and either open another or jump into someone elses threads or whatever it is that you are seeking. It's up to you hun! Try not to feel like others are responsible for how an individual is perceived. I think it's the individual's responsibility to let it be known how he/she wishes to be known.

I truly hope you will feel more comfortably here when you read all the words of advice and caring and widom. Come on out of your shell and jump right in.......the water is fine and I think PF is buying the entire thread a drink! If he isn't........won't he look cheap now after I said that! LMAO! Have fun hun.....that's what we are all here for!

*hugs*

P.S Feel free to PM me anytime. I don't bite unless you want me to! TeeHee!

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