dadaist - don't feel bad ....you sound like you are intelligent and well thought out comments .... personally, I don't spend a lot of time looking at the pics, I spend a little time playing the games -- though I love playing them .... just usually don't take the time to do that as much .... spend a fair amount of time in the members stories section and like you have only posted a few pics that don't show as much as most do. I'll tell you now that if you do well in chat rooms, I admire that ... I'm horrible there ... I get so easily distracted when there are more than about 2 people in one ... so I tend not to even go there.

I don't think it's so much that people have fans as that as people get to know a bit about you they feel more comfortable commenting to you .... The games section can be good for that, getting people so they see your name a bit more, you don't have to post pictures to be part of the group here .... there are all kinds of ways to fit in ... including the relatively quiet ones, but don't stay quiet just because you think we wouldn't like you ... please!!!