Believe it or not Nice Guy......being a nice guy isn't always a bad thing. I can tell from your post that you want more from the relationships with the women in your life than what you are getting now. Most women don't even know that they want a nice guy. They love the challenge of a "bad boy" and they will follow one to the ends of the earth and take all his shit along the way.....and when they finally get him.....then they want to change him into a nice guy! It's mostly lack of maturity.

I know for me........my "first love" personified the bad boy image. He was a drummer with long hair and had so many girlfriends I don't think he even knew how many he had. He rode a motorcycle and did drugs and didn't care about my feelings at all. I "chased" him for nearly nine years (I was persistent) and when it finally dawned on me that he wasn't what I wanted at all........and when I told him of my revelation.........he did a 180 degree turn around and became my persuer! But, by then it was too late and I dumped him! That was the day I realized I deserved to be treated better and I wanted a "nice guy".

This isn't to say that you'll have to wait. I am really just suggesting that maybe a more mature woman might be more receptive to your kindness and sensitivity. I'm not talking a May/December romance.........but from our PM I know that you are around the age my current husband was when he and I met. He was 22 and I was 30. He was in a similar situation as you in that he had a "friend" that he had known since Jr. High. She considered him her best friend.....but he wanted her like there was no tomorrow! I even counseled him a bit, at first, as to how to get her attention turned from friends to dating. Then it occured to me.......Fuck Her! He was a really nice guy and I wanted him for myself! LOL! To this day (and we still see her ocassionally) she is kicking her own ass for not seeing the light way back then. Her mother even told her so at our wedding! LMFAO!

I know that you think you don't have a chance with your current friends but believe me they WILL realize their loss one day! In the meantime......why not try and find a slightly older woman to date. Even if it goes nowhere........these "friends" you have now might just get the wake-up call they need to see that they have the perfect guy right in their own backyard!

Hope this helps you a bit! I hate to think that a nice guy like you thinks he'll finish last!

*hugs*

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