I am so sorry to see the pain you are feeling as well Missy!

If you know anything of me from Pixies.......I speak my mind and I say it as I see it.....especially here.....as I don't have all the minor (major) details! So if I am wrong........just say so......and I will shut up!

Your original post says....(and I paraphrase because I've already started typing and I don't want to go up and get the quote)....you had a fight over "nothing major at all". Forgive me for saying so but.....nothing major at all could be something very major in someone elses eyes!

Please don't get me wrong..........I know the difference between a major "knock down drag out.....kick um where it hurts" kinda argument. And once it's all said......you can't un-say it! But, to some people....throughout many arguments (major or minor) they tally the score and when the scales start to tip towards the red zone (a zone I made up as the place where it just can't be taken anymore) any fight.....be it major or minor in your head........is MAJOR in theirs!

Does this make sense?

What I mean to say is............NO! The ultimate answer to your question is NO! A person CANNOT just fall out of love in an instant. CANNOT dismiss strong feelings for a person in a blink of an eye as a result of a minor argument! There are always extenuating circumstances! If you think back.......you'll more than likely remember times when he said "nothing" was wrong. Times when he did some things that you thought were too casual when they should have been intense.

I could go on......but I just want to put your sweet heart at rest and let you know............from what I have read here......this wasn't your fault. The only thing you are guilty of is giving him the benefit of the doubt in a second go-round and then opening your heart to the prospect of this being "the time for us". This shows that you know life in all it's glory! Don't you ever let that part of yourself waver! If we never take a chance we will always wonder "what if". If we have to wonder that.....what good is life anyway? Go for it with all your heart hun! I'm not saying to be ridiculous and fall for every Tom, Dick, and Harry........but when you get that feeling again........and trust me........you will.......GO FOR IT!

You only live once......why hold back?????

BTW! He was no good for you! You are far too good for him....and yada, yada, yada.......all the things I would say if I could be there and hug you and let you know......things will get better.....you are worth it....and you deserve the best!

*hugs*

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