Well, the nightmare has ended. The kid took the test twice and passed on the 2nd time. I could tell she was ready in the end. Not so much on the first time. So that's good.
Although it got worse from my post. I finally got to a good spot with her though. Two things. One, we set a scope before we drove - along the lines of what were we going to accomplish etc. That helped. I didn't push her, and she took ownership. The other item I learned is that I needed to not push so hard. I think if I had thought through this a little bit before we went a few times, it would have gone better.

Anyway, what's done is done. I have a few regrets on blowing what could have been (and should have been) a fun time in her life but she seems to have forgiven me. And of course, as she is a teenager, if it isn't this, then there is always something else that I am failing at as her parent! Those of you who have teens understand.

Thanks everyone.