I'm married, and committed to my husband. He and I both know that you absolutely *cannot* control who attracts you, and that you may have thoughts of doing something sexual with them. To deny that is simply to be in denial of what you are thinking and feeling as a human being, and out of touch with yourself.

It makes sense to agree to not do some things with people, or only do them under some circumstances or some limitations. I.e., don't leave me for them, and don't tell me about it.