The deceit isn't related to porn...the complete lack of common sense in not realizing that by adding all of the porn-girls he was publicly making an immature "I like boobies" statement is related to porn.
The lack of foresight in realizing this would be a problem is where the trust issue lies. If he can't connect the dots in his head about this, is he going to be obtuse about other things that will really upset me?
I think I've said "boys are stupid" about 100 times since this happened.
Bottom line is, how do you deal with someone who can cross a line so completely with absolutely no malicious will? Just because he didn't MEAN to upset me doesn't make upset go away.
When a woman does not seem insanely jealous, will the idiot she's with push the envelope until he gets a reaction?