Not much I can offer as advice, other than this: my wife is also very reluctant to swallow under normal circumstances. The occasions when she does reward me with the big gulp have been wonderful, memories of which I'll recall to my last breath. When it does happen, she doesn't seem to remember it later if I bring up the subject, leading us both to believe it probably only happens when she has enough alcohol & other herbal suppliments in her system to relax her inhibitions...which makes me think that maybe wyndhy has the best suggestion posted here

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