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Old 02-23-2008, 11:43 AM
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I've wanted to respond to this question for some time, but wasn't sure how to without offending anyone. So please understand that these are my perceptions and opinions, and there might not be a lot of fact to support them.

I'm single and childless - there is one fact, so my opinions might differ from those of you in different situations.

I was a little suprised by Lou's response because my perception and experience of persons in Great Britain were different. I've found the people I know tend to have more of an opinion like Sharni's. Perhaps less of a belief in a the marital institution. They live in committed relationships often with children but without a marriage. At first I was suprised by it, but I accept it as being different than the "American" tradition.

Also, as a single childless person, I don't necessarily believe you need a marriage to raise a child. I think to have an adult (or MORE!) interested in raising a child to be a productive member of society is more important. There have been times in my life where the motherhood need sparked within me and rather than run out and find a husband to create my own I've considered adoption. I've never had an overwhelming urge to reproduce, but to parent. I hope that makes sense. I have the means to raise a child and the desire, but it is incredibly hard for a single person to adopt. And I refuse to just find a baby daddy just so that I can fill my desire to raise a child.

I know none of this really answers Lil's question. But I think the root of the problem is that people all too often are making babies they didn't intend to be making. Apparently these folks all missed that health ed discussion on how sex is the means to reproduction.
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