Thanks Osuche. It helps to frequent a place where a number of member have a lot more experience than us, and good advice to boot.

She told me that she found out that she was a lot braver in her mind than in person as she felt really nervous and intimidated when we first arrived. She didn't realize how difficult it would be to just "jump in". She did tell me that she now wished that we had gone all the way with our previous adventures, rather than just some touching or minimal oral. Hind-sight is always 20-20