Altho My divorce in 1997 was a catalyst for the journey of self exploration (both intellectual and sexual) that has taught me many wonderful things (masturbation, exhibitionism, voyuerism, bondage and how they all relate to me) I wouldn't consider it to be my defining moment.

Instead... it was a wonderfully romantic rendevous that I had at the age of 30... April 21st 2000 to be exact...

I had met a wonderful guy on the internet, and after several months of talking we decided that it would be time for us to finally meet in person. There was no illusion that it was going to be a permanent relationship more than the dear friendship we had already established. He was a life long 50 year old bachelor from Tulsa who was(is) a romantic at heart. We decided to meet in Eureka Springs Arkansas for the weekend. He reserved us a room in a quiet B&B and in a span of 24 hours showed me more about myself sexually and unlocked more things about myself than I could have ever dreamt possible.

Almost 3 years later, he and I are still very close. Altho we have only seen eachother two other times since that occasion, I credit him for opening me up to my own needs... and I will always hold him dear for that.. .