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Old 11-06-2002, 01:35 PM
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You guys need to sit down and talk this one out together. Sex is absolutely essential in a relationship -- and you DESERVE better. Don't feel guilty or demanding...there are big issues here you need to sort out.

And don't make the mistake of thinking it's your fault! Everyone has days where they aren't "on" and don't really want to have sex...but when this state of mind becomes a trend then you need to communicate with each other.

If you can't find common ground, then you need to re-evaluate the relationship. Cheating may be an option -- depending on your morality -- or it may be better to break up and find someone new.

Personally, the lack of communication would concern me more than the lack of sex. Libido issues can be caused by a variety of facors (sickness, stress, new job, mental outlook) and anything can be solved by effective communication.

BTW, I think you're great and gutsy for posting to get advice. Cheers and good luck!!
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