We all can say that it is what's inside rather than outside that counts, but it's hard to accept that deep down, I think, as the posts attest, when we're constantly bombarded with images that young, extreme builds (for men and women), meaning very muscular and lean for guys and either anorexic or huge breasts with tiny waist and round curvy butt with tiny hands and feet for women are the ideal set before us. Look at the pix you can choose from in the Avatars section in Liliath's Laire and you'll see what I mean. I don't think there is one generic pix to choose from that doesn't fit those "ideals." Not that I am singling it out, just implying that that is typical of the media and what you hear so often that people are looking for. You don't see that many personals, for example, where someone is looking for an older woman or a heavy-set (big boned or not) woman or man. It's no wonder we end up hating our bodies.

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