I agree with much of what Lou says - especially about many men having an uncanny ability to make women feel demeaned after sex. I've never understood how I can walk away - a normally confident and happy woman - and end up feeling less a person.

I think socialization is a part of the issue. Many women worry about their reputations. I do.

I think women are wired differently - regardless of the man's attractiveness, it takes a while for a woman to want to have sex with him. For me - I have to like who he is as a person - even if I don't want him as a husband/father.

I think having an orgy/multiple partner experience is different - you walk into the situation expecting/wanting semi-anonymous sex. Pairing, I think, is more about the magic of compatability and pheromones for this lady.

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney