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Old 07-27-2007, 04:16 AM
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OK, but you're not going to like it!

It's important that even no strings attached sex is with a man you can trust.

It's important that when you have sex with a man you get as much out of it as he does - otherwise why the fuck would you bother? A man who can't be bothered to form any kind of relationship with you, is hardly likely to spend time in bed making sure you're satisfied.

Fortunately for men, most women are attracted to men based on their personality more than their looks. Most women would be happy to have no strings attached with Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt but since most men are considerably less attractive than that, they need to get to know a man before they find him attractive enough to sleep with.

A lot of men have the uncanny ability to make a girl feel dirty, degraded and used after sex, which is not a pleasant sensation. There are plenty of professionals out there, and if you want nothing but sex, you could just pay for it, so why on earth would most women want to be treated with less respect than that and give it away for free?

Think about it - would you get naked alone with a stranger who is probably bigger, heavier and stronger than you, and then let them put a part of their body inside a very intimate part of your anatomy, knowing that if they wanted something that you didn't, you'd pretty much be powerless to stop them? No? That doesn't sound like fun? Well then.



For the record, there are women out there who are happy to have casual sex and while many of them are healthy and happy people, there are also a lot of women out there who have emotional baggage and are damaged. Some women have casual sex with men because they get a warped sense of self esteem from it and who think sex = love. In having casual sex with random women, it's possible that you'd be taking advantage of vulnerable people, and the only way you'll know how to avoid that situation is if you get to know the woman first. If you don't care about taking advantage of vulnerable people, then you'll probably never get the kind of great sex buzz you're looking for with a woman who is confident, together and sussed.
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