gotta agree with swan

me and Jane have done this for foreplay for a long time (not all the time tho - I think the clue is variation ).
tell each other your fantasy, while each of u play with urself (or each other).
Best I think is if ur fantasy includes ur partner. I for 1 fantasy a lot of Jane being fucked by 2-3 (or more strangers), and this always seems to turn her on. But then again I think this only turns out well if u got a clue on what ur partners fantasy's is about. (if its not YOUR fantasy, make 1 up ) 1 way could be that u 2 make 1 up together.

anyways, don't let ur kids govern ur sexlife. this could be very destructive in the long run

best of luck

charlie