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Originally Posted by Loulabelle
I think online relationships can lead to better real life ones. You have time to get to know each other's personality...share intimate thoughts and insights before you have the opportunity to make the relationship physical. And if you do venture into the world of long distance sex before you meet up, then you also have the opportunity to discover whether or not you are sexually compatible.
The one thing that online relationships can't anticipate is that magical chemistry that you need to have with someone. I read somewhere that the scent of our potential partners is a huge contributing factor in attraction and that is one of the few things that you can't get to know before meeting someone face to face. That's where luck comes into play, and looking around here I think there are an awful lot of lucky Pixie-people out there.
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I feel this way, also. One thing that always was a factor for me, in both my wanting to meet other women and in other women wanting to meet me, during my old AOL chatroom days/nights of yesteryear on up to BBS club postings today, is the "speech."
In some instances it might be elitist or picky, but I cannot wrap my head around a poster who "speaks" in horrible, broken spelling, grammar, ill use of the caps lock, bad or unnecessary slang use, choice of words, etc...to me, it's like a window into the person's brain and I imagine the "voice" speaking those words to me...and if it doesn't feel "sexy," then what's the point, you know?
I try to give my best "smarts" with words in coming across online...and mostly it's paid off with the online-to-reality lovers I've had. When I was starting out I was sometimes on a possible ass hunt and I didn't really gleam for quality during those naughty notions...but now I realize the ones that actually bit were the ones that I had full, literate conversations with, even when we were getting dirty.
That being said...I'm currently in an open, long-distance relationship with a lady I met during my AOL chat days, maybe waaaaaay back in ’98 was when we met online and then a year after that we met in person briefly when she was coming thru here — "briefly" actually meaning we talked for three or four hours before having a quickie — and since then we keep in touch roughly on a daily basis thru the magic of computers and cellular text messaging while connecting physically whenever our ’twains meet.
Oh yeah...all you Pixies peeps ARE lucky! This forum has really deep roots, I'm constantly finding out. I wonder how I would be now if I had come here way back when?