Dear Smile Beautiful,

I don't know if you have ever tried pleasuring a lady with your tongue but believe me, there can be a feedback problem. It can be very, very hard to judge what is happening as you lick and suck your favourite pussy.

Apart from the embarrassment many ladies feel about directing their man to lick here harder, go easier there, ooh-that's good, there is also the problem of being driven out of their mind. In my limited experience, your lady is likely to collapse into total incoherence and be literally unable to communicate. Many's the time I've been working away without even a moan as a reward only to find afterwards that she's been out of her mind in ecstacy.

If your man had any idea how much you were enjoying it, I'm sure he would never stop. Talking about it afterwards is difficult and not precise. So how to get the message through as the great event is happening?

One suggestion is to get on top. Rest your elbows on the bedhead and lower your pussy onto his tongue. Tell him to keep his head still, and you do the moving. You'll soon both figure out what works best and your increasingly frantic movements will give him a real buzz. He'll also be 100% sure of when you came!

Another gentler way is to 69 - but not simultaneously. I'm told it is near impossible for a girl to have a good orgasm while trying to do the same for some-one else, so take turns. Bring him close to cumming, and then stop while he does the same for you. You'll have to stop him before you slip over the edge, but just having got you close will be a prize for him (you can always play-act a bit to encourage him). After a few turns, let yourself come. Don't bother trying to make him come at the same time, he'll still enjoy the experience. Just bury your face in his crotch and enjoy yourself. When you come round again, you may find he's come in your hair. If not, sit on his cock or blow him until he gets his jollies too.

You'll never hear him say he didn't know if he was doing it right again!