Just a short note here....

there shouldn't be any odor associated with using KY jelly. KY has no taste or smell and it's one of the least expensive and helpful sex tools I've ever used (besides my toys, of course LOL).
A womans dryness has absolutely NOTHING to do with how aroused she is...so don't think that either of you are doing something wrong. Some people are just more moist than others.

Also, some or rather MANY women and men out there are conservative in everything they do in life and often it isn't possible to change how they feel about things like sex.
I would seriously use caution before marrying someone who's sexual appetite or ability to have fun in the bedroom doesn't closely match mine.

I like to be noisy, I like to have fun, I like to try different things.

My husband likes straight missionary sex...and he's SILENT while doing so.

25++ years is WAY too long to be mismatched in an area as important as this is.

Oh.
Sorry.
I was gonna keep this short! LOL

Have fun whatever you do try...it isn't life or death, so play around and see what works for you both.