It occurs to me (IMHO) that you only talk to replies in your threads that pertain to answers that you want to hear!

Sorry if that ^^^ sounds harsh...but I can't sit by and watch you disregard all the words of wisdom and experience and pick out only the thoughts that you want to extract that go along the lines of what you are thinking anyway.

I'll explain:

Every thread I've read from you is queried (in essence), "What Would You Do In This Situation"? When the replies come abounding, I've only ever seen a response from you to the answers that you might want to hear.

It takes nothing to be open to our own thoughts! To listen and digest and follow other peeps advice takes an open mind!

We have some very wise people here at Pixies who have been through very much the same thing you are going through and they are TRYING to help you over the hurdles if you'd just listen! Many a youth has come and gone and they look back and say, "Why didn't I take that advice"? Ya wanna know why they didn't take that advice? BECAUSE it wasn't what they wanted to do or hear.

Instead, they took the "go-ahead-with-your-feelings" advice from the one or two who happened to answer/agree with what they were thinking all along. They (personally) didn't have to shoulder the responsibility when it all failed. All they had to say/think to themselves was, "Well...it wasn't my fault because I was advised to do it this way".

Do you hear what I am saying? All arrows point to "GET AWAY FAST...NO HANKY PANKY ANYTIME...EVER...SHE IS USING YOU LIKE A TRAINED DOG AND SHE ISN'T WORTH YOUR URINE TO SUSTAIN HER IF SHE WAS DEHYDRATED!!!!"

Hun...she's a mean, self centered, bitch-of-all-bitches and you are a sap if you continue to let her misuse you!

You have your whole life ahead of you and nary a person has ever died from leaving their "first love" behind. Matter of fact...nary a person is still with their first love (it's very rare).

We fear the future because we can't see it. Imagine a day when you'll laugh about all of this. Imagine a day when your first grandchild sits by you and asks about your first love. Will you tell her/him that you've never gotten over her even though you married somone else? I think NOT! I think you'll look back and smile and say, "It was an experience I learned from and I dated a bit more and then I met your grandmother and I knew she was THE ONE for me"!!!

^^^That's a message you can take to the bank!

So...what say you?

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