I went through the same with my wife when I was 32. It wasn't her, I just had no sexual desire. I too was too much of the "man" that I thought I was supposed to be instead of the man that should've asked for help. She sought her needs elsewhere and we divorced. I am very close friends with a doctor and boy was it hard to tell my friend that I wasn't interested in sex and that the lil man down stairs wasn't either. I figured he'd give me all kinds of hell. Instead he said it may be a physical problem (go figure). I went to his office and had some blood tests done. My testosterone levels had dropped to that of a 50-60 year old and the cortisol levels where inflated (cortisol is linked to giving men the beer belly or causing fat to build in that specific area). He gave me a shot of testosterone cyponate and within a day or two, a little breeze had the little man standing like a flag pole and all I could think about was jumping in the sack. After doing some research, testosterone cyponate is also used by body builders, but I've seen no such effects on me (probably because of such low dosage taken). Back then (early 90's) it was relatively easy for the doctor to get/give cyponate. Now (late 90's til now anyway), cyponate is considered a controlled substance (due to body builders abusing it and the black market). So my buddy could no longer prescribe it to me. In 2000 (I think) a new drug was invented as a cream that one can mearly rub in on the shoulders, upper arm, or abdomen. It is called AndroGel. Taken daily, all signs of no or low sex drive are gone. Hope this helps!