It can be a huge thing if not met and understood.

In many ways the psychological aspects can be more subtle and harder to cope with.

Apart from the "I'm getting fat and frumpy, how could you love ugly ol' me, my god I'm turning into my mother, you're just feeling sorry for me, you must be playing up because I'm no longer desirable" and the million other insecurities that are brought out, it's amazing how many women enter other relationships to prove to themselves that they are still attractive to someone.

Start reading, start watching and start understanding what's really going on around you and the two of you should come out of this OK.

Get her to read the books too.

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