I have met a few guys from online.. none of them thru a personals service.. for the most part... I have met them as a result of my stories.
Of the few I have met... 2 of them made long lasting impressions on my life.. and in my heart.
One.. lets call him Roger... ROFL.. actually that is his name.. He lived on the west coast (Northern Virginia to be exact). He sent me an e-mail after reading my stories. I responded and that began what was at first a friendship that quickly developed into something much more. We began corresponding early April of 2000 and he flew out to spend a week with me in August. It was completely wonderful... after that week.. or relationship continued to grow.. endless hours on the phone.. too many emails to remember.. I flew to Virginia in October 2000... spent a week.. met his family.. friends.. returned home.. the relationship continued.. progressing to the point where WE had decided I would relocate after the following may when I was to graduate from College. Made plans to find a job.. relocate my son.. get a place of my own... he flew out here for Christmas (even paid for my bro to fly out from California to surprise my mom).. everything was wonderful... I loved him... I bought tickets to spend Spring break out there looking for a job... then on January 21st (one week after moving back in with my folks to save money during my last semester for my move)... Roger called me.. told me that he didn't love me afterall.. that I actually reminded him of his ex wife.. and that he wanted to be "friends". Yep.. "Friends". Funny.. I heard from him once since then.. no explanation.. no nothing... the end. Needless to say.. my world spun around.. two weeks after that call.. I went out drinking.. 14 shots of tequilla.. 4 amaretto sours... 2 margaritas later... LOL.. My last semester of college was the most deficult time of my life.. had to restructure my life.. my goals were taken away.. and I had to begin from scratch.. with myself..
The second one.. well that is a more postive meeting. I met Lee (from OK) online as a result of my stories as well... several months before I met Roger. After several months of talking.. we decided to meet for the first time.. in this wonderfully quaint place in Arkansas called Eureka Springs. I drove the hour there... got there early.. and spent my time anxiously waiting. When he arrived.. he was exactly as I imagined in my head... he greeted me with a hug.. and the night got better from there. He had rented a nice room at a Bed & Breakfast... he took me a beautiful romantic restaurant.. followed by a carriage ride on the cobble roads in the moonlight.. afterwards we went to the shops.. walked around a little bit before finally ending up in the local jazz club... stayed there for a bit.. danced.. held hands.. had his arm around me.. then we walked (up hills from hell I might add) back to the bed & breakfast... were we shared some very intimate moments.. the best that I have ever experienced in my lifetime thus far.
As if.. my life wanted to bring me back to reality.. I woke the next morning with Kidney stones.. ROFL.. just my luck. I have seen him twice since then.. altho I consider him one of my dearest lifelong friends.. his life now includes a wonderful lady with whom he now lives. Because of this.. we don't talk much anymore... but I credit him with helping me open myself to the possibilities..
Thanks BiBi.. for the chance to walk down memory lane..
The moral to my stories.. life is a risk... love is a risk... but nothing worth having in this life comes without any. If you choose to meet someone online.. do so only when you feel comfortable.. and make it so that the initial meeting is in a public place..
Will I meet anyone again on line? Not sure.. part of me would like to.. while other parts of me aren't yet ready for that risk.. we shall see... only time will tell
